Adolescence By Day: March 2008

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This year, boys are stupid. And not for the normal reasons, like them going girl-crazy and throwing things down my shirt. This year, they've been making jokes. Disgusting jokes. Violent jokes. Rape jokes. I wasn't really bothered at first, but that was before I was on blogs, before I learned about feminism and the true nature of rape. I look back now, and I ask myself why I ever thought these were right or acceptable in any way. What's the statistic, one in four women will get raped or sexually harassed? One, two, three, four. That's me and three friends. Which one will it be? And why the hell (sorry, mom) should we be joking about that? I just want to rage and storm and curse and get violent on those boys, who don't even know that they are perpetuating a culture that says that it's acceptable to demean their mothers, sisters, friends, girlfriends. What should I do? Should I shove a picture of Melissa McEwan, who is a hero of mine, in their faces? Is there anything I can do? All that'll happen is that I'll be labled "touchy" and a "bitch." Maybe it's worth it though. There's no way I can keep my dignity and my pride when someone says "Oh, come on, if he raped you, you'd love it!" and I do nothing.

This is my promise to myself, to any woman who has had to go through that experience, to any future girls of the world. I'm not going to stand for it anymore. Why should I? It's my right to fight the rape culture of America, as a woman and a human being. There's no excuse for my ignoring it till now and I intend to make amends with that as soon as I can. One, two, three, four. It's not going to be me, or my friends. I will die before I let that happen.

Thank You.

I'm writing this for a friend of mine. I don't think there's anything I could do to thank her enough. I'm not sure I'm exaggerating when I say that she brought me back from the edge. I don't know if anyone will get this, unless they've actually been suicidal themselves, but I'm going to write it anyway. When I was in the worst of my depression, it was like there was a huge whole where my stomach was. Nothing could make me happy. I would still laugh and smile, but they wouldn't quite reach my eyes or my mind. In short, it absolutely sucked. I won't go in to it anymore than that, I don't need to whine about how bad it was. I just want to thank my friend.

PMTer (you know who you are), you don't know what you did for me. You can say you didn't do anything, but I didn't need anything special. I needed someone who didn't think I was crazy. I needed someone who would care, but not judge. I needed someone happy and optimistic. You may have not done anything out of the ordinary, but you were awesome. I don't know what I would have done if you hadn't just talked to me. Even when you were just distracting me (with Dom, of course), you were taking my mind off, well, killing myself. And I don't think I can ever thank you enough.

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I'm rated PG!! If my blog were a movie, I wouldn't have to sneak in to see it. Apparently I'm not suitable because I say the word kill twice.

I guess they don't factor in the angsty poems or the depression.

Alright, so a couple of months ago I was updating my MySpace, changing my layout and so on. I had just discovered The Bastard Fairies, so I put up one of their "advertisement" videos on my page (video in question: The Coolest 8 Year Old In The World Talks About O'Reilly) I personally thought it was fabulous (actually so did my mom when I showed it to her), even though there was some cursing. I didn't really care. As long as I wasn't repeating the "bad" words, there wasn't a problem. It wasn't anything worse than what I was hearing on South Park and Family Guy.

Before I go on, I'll give you some background on what my family is like. My mom and dad seperated a couple of months after we moved up here from Washington. I was really young, still a baby. I would see my dad maybe a couple of days a year up until about five years ago, when I would go see him in Seattle for a week or two (still only once a year). This was fine with me. I hadn't known anything else, so there wasn't anything to miss. Last year, he moved to Minnesota and married a woman he had known in high school (more on that in a later post). So now I go visit him there in the summer. If I get right down to it, I hate Minnesota. It's a very weird, creepy place to me. It seems like everyone is blond and tan and Republican there. Basically the complete opposite of what I'm used to. It's very odd to me. Like Stepford, or something.

Anyway, back to what I was saying. A couple of days ago, I got a call from my dad. He was not happy at all. Apparently the video was not appropriate viewing for his Little Princess. He didn't like all the "profanity". All right, I could get on board with that. I actually probably should have expected that. He asked me what I thought my grandmother would say if she saw that on my MySpace. I said that she probably wouldn't like that it swore a lot. Usually I don't really voice my opinion with my dad. He pretty much thinks that at thirteen I should be concerned with boys and makeup and I don't know...ponies, probably. I've probably shocked him by being interested in bands like Muse and feminism and politics. I think I know more about politics than him (he thought Obama was Muslim!). This time I just kind of snapped. I had to say something. So I then told him that she might be offended because most of our family is obsessively Republican and probably agrees with O'Reilly.

I really don't think I was disrespectful. I just want my dad to know that I have a mind, and I use it. I think it's awesome that I consider myself a feminist and want to know about the world that is outside my circle of family and friends. I just don't think he thinks it's awesome and that bothers me. Maybe I should just say that I want him to be proud of me, but that's not it. I think I just want him to know that I care about stuff other than the regular things that people think teenage girls care about. I'm sure I've rambled on enough already, so I'll stop. But I've just got to say.

I'm not a Little Princess, and I'm proud of it!!

Another Poem.

Another poem. I like writing poetry. You don't have to be nearly as coherent, but you can express so much more.

Beauty is fleeting
But I want it.

Living in the shadow of
the highlights and perfect skin
the shiny white teeth
the clothes I can only dream of.

Let me have a chance.
My beauty is on the inside.
I can't show it.
Out of convention,
Out of my mind.

Everything I wish for.
But it seems I have nothing.
Be happy, they say,
You are beautiful.

Superficial can hurt,
But the pain won't change my thoughts.
And my thoughts won't change my outside.

They tell me not to think about
If only I controlled my thoughts.

Those with the pretty outsides
Can be pretty inside too.
They have the full life.
While here I am, pale and small,
cling to what little half I have.

"...I wish you luck, ferocity and a tenacious, stubborn drive to succeed." -Response to a comment I got on one of my favorite blogs.

This is what I want for me more than anything. Luck for my endeavors, whatever they may be, would be a welcome asset. But that's not what I really want for myself. Now, ferocity! What a talent. I can only hope that I will grow into this. Right now I'm not so sure I can claim myself as ferocious...

I know I have a drive to succeed. It's buried in there somewhere, behind the wall of clouds that is my depression, behind the worry and all the things I shouldn't have in my head. It's there, I can feel it. It rears it's passionate, tenacious (and yes, stubborn) head every time I have to hear about something I care deeply about. I want to help. I have to help. Even if it's with my tears and prayers, or sending good thoughts to the people affected. It kills me that that is all I can do. I can't make myself older or rich, but I wish I could. Because then, just maybe I could help someone.

I have to help people. I will readily (all too readily, actually) sacrifice my own happiness for that of others, even my enemies. I have to make people happy. I will readily do something that will cause me to cry every night for a week if it means that I will make one of my friends happy. I can't care about myself. I don't think I know how anymore. I have to give everything I have. But now there's nothing left and I don't know what to do with myself.

A poem, prose, whatever you like to call it. I'm not the greatest poet or writer, but I like to experiment.

I don't know where I am anymore
I've lost you
And I've lost me.

I want someone to find me.
But I'm all alone now.
Left to fend for myself.

If I am inside my head
I'm safe.
I think.
I don't know anymore.

I'm lost.
But no one will find me
Unless I give them the map.

The map will be made of my tears and my thoughts.
I know it will.
I've just got to let them out.
Easier said than done.

Wasting away, I am.
Lost, without a chance of being found.
It's up to me, I know.
I just can't get the strength.

Kill me now.
Don't kill me now.
Just find me please.
End.

I can't tell you how much it bothers me when people equate being emo with depression. Emo is a genre of music, a style, it's not a mental disorder. You can choose to be emo. When you're depressed, you have no choice in what you feel. It's like an insidious little bug that will crawl through your mind and leave a slimy trail of sadness and anger wherever it goes.

When I was first "diagnosed" with depression, I told a few of my close friends. I really wanted to tell someone, but I knew that it shouldn't be spread around. I was surprised and maybe a little hurt when a couple of my friends said something equivalent to "So you're emo now?" That was so utterly wrong I didn't know where to begin to refute it, not that they would've cared anyhow.

I have friends who are "emo." They honestly are some of the most happy, awesome people I know. They don't have such low self esteem that sometimes when they look in the mirror they can't help but cry. They don't think about how much better it would be if they weren't alive or in a state of consciousness. They don't have times when they won't eat anything because they think they are too fat to be loved. They don't have days where they don't think they have any friends at all. They won't sleep for fourteen hours and wake up still tired. They don't wonder if they are actually crazy because nothing makes them happy anymore.

So don't try to tell me I'm emo, or that emo is the same thing as depression. They aren't the same thing at all.

This is me.

For the moment, I'll call myself R. I am thirteen years old. I have suffered from adolescent depression for almost half a year now. It has not been an easy thing to deal with. Most of the time I don't even know how to deal with it. One way that usually helps me work out my issues is writing about them, which is the entire reason I've started this. I will write about my feelings on certain events and things (and people). I hope it will help me, and give people a different idea about depression.

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